This past weekend, Mikael and I had family photos done outdoors in the West Bottoms of Kansas City, with our daughter and our soon to be adopted daughter.
We just got the photo proofs back today and they are just so good. Seeing two girls in these photos makes my heart burst with so much love, I can barely contain myself.
This adoption journey has been a long one and having her here with us every weekend, and soon having her move in – (which by the way, we just got the move-in date!) – oh it makes me so happy.
This kiddo needs us and we can’t wait to officially welcome her into our family, although from day one, all of us considered her a part of our family.
After such a good weekend, and now sliding into the exciting stuff I’m working on this week, I just had a flood of pure gratitude wash over me while I was sitting at my desk this morning.
Mikael was putting fresh paint on the trim in practically all the rooms of the house as we get ready for our adoption home study visit we have later this week, Lily was working on her remote learning school in the kitchen, and the 4 dogs were all panting after going to the vet this morning, and I was sitting at my desk, after emailing my 1-to-1 clients with our weekly action step planning, and I just got caught up in how amazing it is that I get to do this work, and how this work that I do fits perfectly into how I also want to show up in my family. I have created exactly what I wanted when I first set out to “be my own boss” over a decade ago.
I have plenty of time for everything.
Time for my kids.
Time for my husband.
Time for myself.
And time to do the work I love.
I also have plenty of money.
Money to be able to care for two teenage girls and even adopt to begin with.
Money to have fun adventures with my husband.
Money to spend on things I want, just for me.
Money to grow my business and have pure fun doing so!
Money to give generously and be there for the people I love.
This was exactly what I wanted.
And it’s here.
It wasn’t always this way for me…
But what’s funny is now that I am here,
I know I could have been here so much earlier if I just opened up to all the possibilities that were available to me and stepped into being that woman from the start.
But I didn’t know, and I had to grow into the full realization of that. My mindset of what was possible had to expand, then my actions had to match that inner knowing.
Because now that I am here, I know that any way you want to build your business and make money – you can.
You can hustle 70 hours a week and make 5 figure months.
Or you can do it in 20 and make the same.
You get to decide how you design your business.
And you can make money however you design it.
So why wouldn’t you design it to support you in the creation of the life you want to live?
I used to think I had to work all hours of the day and night in order to make my dream happen.
And because that was my belief, that’s exactly what I did.
I sacrificed many many nights of sleep because I was up working. I sacrificed weekends.
But why would you work yourself into the ground if you don’t have to?
If you can create the same success financially, and be well-rested and have time for everything you wanted to do, and spend plenty of time with the people you love – why wouldn’t you?
Of course you would!
The problem isn’t that you wouldn’t take that.
The problem is that we don’t realize it can actually be ours for the taking.
We don’t believe it because we haven’t seen anyone actually do it.
When I was first stepping into the world of online marketing, I saw a lot of hustle.
“Work hard now so you won’t have to in the future” was the theme.
So I fell for the lie that in order to create the life I wanted, I had to “do the work” now… And to me, I made “that work” mean that I had to work all hours of the day and night to create the financial success I wanted so that I could experience time freedom on the other side of it.
Then one day, I started questioning this belief. And let me tell you right now, as a coach, when you can start bringing the beliefs you have into question, that are not actually serving you in your life, and look to see if a different belief could also be true and then starting to try it on until you can actually believe it – your whole world starts to shift.
Because however you design your business, you can make lots of money and have time freedom. And what’s interesting is that the more relaxed you are, yet passionate and fired up about what you do, the more money you can make and the more fun it is in the first place.
The core of the work I do with my clients in both my one-to-one private coaching practice and in my group program is all around designing a business on their terms. However much you want to work, you can. However many or little clients you want at one time – you can have them. However much money you want to make, you can. However much time you have to work, you can use just that amount of time to build your business and reach the exact goals you want to reach financially with it.
All it takes is the belief that it’s possible and then live into that belief with your actions.
You can go in baby steps, or however quickly you’d like to build up your belief.
For me, I did baby steps.
I wanted to see if it was possible to still make 5 figures a month and actually go to bed at a good time every day. It was.
Then I wanted to see if it was possible to actually stop work every night at 5:00 and take my evenings off and still make 5-figures a month. It was.
Then I thought, well, if I could do that, I wonder if I can take every Sunday completely off and do the same. I could.
Then I thought, okay, what about the whole weekend? It was possible and my income started to grow even more.
Then I thought, alright – well can I take off whole mornings throughout the week? Some Friday’s too? What about entire weeks every other week?
Turns out – it’s all possible.
You can build your business any way you want. I’ve coached enough women (and myself) to know this is true.
It just starts with the intention of knowing what you want.
Believing that you can do it.
Then choosing to do it.
Even if you’re starting from scratch and are just starting to build your business – the same is true.
And for you, you can choose to believe it right from the start.
You can decide today how much you want to work.
Then show up for just that amount of time, and get the guidance you need so you can maximize the time you are working, and watch your business grow.
If I would have known back then what I know now, I absolutely would have taken the freedom route from the start. There was no need to hustle myself into the ground – EVER.
But I didn’t know what I didn’t know and that’s okay – because I know now.
And now, I can share what I know with you so you can get there quicker than me if you want…
You can create however much income you want with however much time you want to work each week.
Your job is simply to decide what it is that you want.
Then get a solid plan in place so you know exactly what you’re going to do to make it happen.
Lastly, work your plan!
That’s it my friend.
If you want to start doing business on your terms – but want some guidance on the “how”, sign up for a 6-Figure Coach Strategy Session with me and we will visualize the business you want, uncover all of the things that are standing in your way, and create an action plan for moving smoothly forward towards your goals. These sessions are complimentary, so sign up for yours today at yourbusinessdesigner.com/session.
I hope this message has served you today. Keep doing what you’re doing. This world needs what you have to offer, and you can create the life of your dreams all while doing work you love – you really can. I know it because I am living it.