How exactly do you properly close a year like the one we just had? It’s been a year of unpredictability that many of us have never seen before…
What do you do with that?
Your strength and your power is found in realizing what parts you CAN control and letting go of what you can’t. When you try to control outside things, you lose your peace. When you accept what is and focus on the things you CAN control, you are at home with yourself. From THAT place, you can create anything you want!
Ahead, you have a completely blank slate of a year to do with however you please.
But in order to be fully equipped to go into this new year, I urge you to own your power and not let this year be one that you’re running from. Instead, what can you take and learn from it to power you up as a person? To make you more ready and equipped for whatever comes your way in the new year?
What are the 3 biggest lessons you would have happily paid to have known in advance?
Think about this. Truly think about this.
What are the lessons that you learned this year, that if you had known them before you started this year, it would have saved you so much time or would have given you the ability to make so much more money?
This is an end of the year reflection, that when you do it, you will be able to take the best things you learned into the new year. The things that have shaped you and grown you as a person. By intentionally taking them into the new year with you, you take the best of the year with you and rise above it instead of wanting to run away from it.
I share my 3 biggest lessons in today’s podcast episode. Take a listen and let these sink in.
Then, I’d love to hear what your biggest lessons have been in the past year! Post in the comments below. It’s been a crazy year. It may not have ended up how you expected. But you have the power to uncover the lessons that you’ll take into the new year. Sit down and see the lessons that have come from it.
These are the lessons that will propel you forward and move you to creating the most impactful business and extraordinary life, in the year ahead!
Today is your day! Life is short and your dreams are worth it.
Hitting your goals do not actually matter.
I know what you are probably thinking…
“Wait a minute… of course it matters! Right?”
My goals are my dream! They are the reason why I have my business in the first place…
Let me clarify…
Setting your goals matters… of course.
When you have a specific result in your mind that you are going to make happen, you have the clarity for what you are aiming for and then that clarity helps you to determine the actions that you do in your business so you can reach your goal.
Having the goal in your mind gives you clarity for the actions you do in your business.
But hitting your goal…
That is what doesn’t matter.
This is an important distinction to make.
Yes, have a goal.
But when you don’t meet the goal, in the timeframe you set out to do, it doesn’t matter that you didn’t hit it…
Here’s what DOES matter:
What matters is what happens, what you do, when you DON’T hit your goal.
Because THIS, this is what is going to happen to you 90% or more of the time.
If it doesn’t happen like this, and you are hitting your goals 100% every time, then your goal is way too small, and you’re basing it off of things you’ve already done.
But when you set an extraordinary goal, it takes something more of you. It requires the next level of you to show up.
It GROWS you as a person.
Let’s say your goal was to sign a client this week.
Let’s say you set the goal at the beginning of the week.. and now it’s the last hour of your workday on Friday, and you haven’t met your goal.
Now, what happens?
The old you may not realize this point is so pivotal. That this is what matters the most in going after extraordinary goals.
The old you may have said something like:
“I’m a failure, I can’t do this. It’s never going to happen for me. Who am I to do this work? People don’t like what I have to offer. Am I even cut out for this?”
This is the default, unmanaged mind talking. Most everyone starts out thinking this way when they are attempting something in their business that is brand new. It’s the untamed brain. It’s natural for these thoughts to flow in.. but where I see most people get stuck is that they BELIEVE this thought.
If you believe this thought… what actions would you take next?
You would likely either:
- Stop or pause the actions that you are taking that could get the result that you want, because you think they aren’t working
- Let go of the goal all together and tell yourself that smaller goals don’t hurt as bad.
I am here to tell you that there is SO MUCH more within you than to do either of these things.
Because not meeting your goal, in the timeframe that you wanted, has nothing to do with what is possible for you, or what you can achieve and instead it has everything to do with how bold and brave you are for choosing to hold the belief that it is in fact possible.
What you tried, is worthy of doing.
It doesn’t mean that you’re a failure. It doesn’t mean that what you offer isn’t valuable.
It just means you tried something worthy and now, you can learn from it.
What could you do now to get better results than you did before?
What could you do now that could actually move you to reach the goal that you set?
When you take what you have done, and look at it, it gives you such valuable information for what you can do next.
Because the goal is NEVER the problem.
It’s what we do after we don’t hit the goal that makes the difference between ultimate success.
Don’t stop and start, stop and start.
Set the goal.
Go all in with the goal with your whole heart. Do the big moves that can help you achieve the goal.
And the 90% of the time when you don’t hit it in the timeframe you want, immediately assess what parts worked and what parts didn’t, and then go into your next phase with a better plan that you will work.
You don’t beat yourself up..
Look at the steps you have done.
Where is there progress?
Or is this goal going to require a different level from you to meet your goal next time?
Don’t ever give up on the goal.
Because if you want to get to your first $10k/month, you can do it.
If you want to uplevel to $30k/months consistently, you can do it.
It just takes having the inner knowing that this extraordinary goal is yours, and all you have to do is show up with the right actions to align with that goal and eliminate the amount of slowing down or stopping of your momentum to achieving it. When you can do that, you are able to get to your goal much quicker than if you are constantly stopping and starting back up again.
If you’d like me as your coach, sharing all my best business strategies that I have personally done and helped my clients execute, and receiving support and having me cheer you on every step of the way, apply for a Business Design Breakthrough Session with me where together we will visualize what you want your business income to be and how much time freedom you want to have, then we’ll uncover every single thing that is standing in the way from creating that vision, and then we’ll create an action plan for moving forward with ease and fun towards your goal together!
I’m here for your success,
Hello my friend, I hope that this video finds you well and that you are staying healthy throughout this crazy time that we are all in.
I’m really happy that you’ve taken a moment here with me to hopefully gain some encouragement as we all go through this crazy time that we’re all in together.
So I have been kind of absent for the last couple of weeks online. I’ve been doing a lot of behind the scenes stuff, but…
my world has just been turned upside down with all that’s going on right now.
My daughter is home from school and I was thrown into homeschooling her.
We actually believe that my husband has contracted the virus. He’s showing all the symptoms and he’s just not feeling good at all. Thankfully, it’s not at the hospital level though, so, and it’s been like this for the last couple of weeks. But he’s quarantining himself and we’re just staying to ourselves and hoping that he gets healthy really soon.
But I have actually been feeling somewhat fatigued in the last week, and I’ve just been taking a lot of time to rest. But right now I feel really good and hopefully we continue on that trajectory.
But anyways, I wanted to jump on today to share a little bit of encouragement with you as we all go through this hard time together.
I want you to know that you’re not alone and that I know that my business has taken a hit.
From the people that I help, I’ve heard so many stories of just the crazy things that are happening. And…
I imagine if my world is like this, I’m sure that you’re also facing something similar too in your own business and in your own personal life.
So I want to share a little bit of encouragement with you today and give you some tangible tips of things that you can do to help as you venture through the next several weeks that we all have together, or months.
We don’t know how long this is going to last, so it’s important that we learn how to adapt in these times.
And so, I’m just gonna share a couple of things that have helped me in hopes that it also helps you too, okay.
So the first thing that I really wanna make sure that you do, because this is of utmost importance as we go through this time, and that is..
#1 Allow yourself to be poured into
Allow yourself to be poured into and at the same time, give yourself grace if you’re not meeting all of the goals that you’ve set out for yourself or if you have a crazy homeschooling day.
It’s okay, this is what everybody’s going through right now and you have to give yourself grace in this time. And take care of yourself, allow yourself to be poured into.
Whether that looks like having a call with a good friend or following people who encourage you, who motivate you. Talking with some of your connections that just lift you up. Listening to a really good podcast, or reading a really good book. Just pour into yourself. Do a lot of good self care during this time. Make sure you have a good balance, okay?
Because you can’t be always at the television, watching the news, being flooded with all of that just negativity that invades your space, invades your mind and can get into your heart and cause you a lot of anxiety and fear as you go through this time.
So it’s more about consuming less and creating more. Consuming more good things, things that are going to lift you up and empower you during this time and allow you to focus on things that you can control instead of things that are out of your control, okay?
All the stuff that’s in the news right now, so much of it are things that are completely out of our control and we really have to focus on things that are in our control during this time, okay? So allow yourself to be poured into. So, so important as we venture through the next several weeks or months together.
When you are poured into or allow yourself to be poured into and to take care of yourself. You’re able to then give into others in a much higher capacity.
And this is so important as a business owner, and I know a lot of my audience are business owners. This is who I help, I help people who are coaches or consultants, online course creators, speakers and authors. Online service providers thrive in the online space. I help them by building their websites and coaching them, and teaching them how to build their own websites as well.
#2 Pour into others
But no matter who you serve in your business, you’ve got to make sure that you are showing up for them in this time, in this time that we’re all in together collectively. Show up for them in this time and speak to their specific needs in the area that you help your people with.
Speak to their needs.
>> What is it that you can do to help them specifically in the areas that you know, that you help people with to begin with?
>> What are the things that they’re saying that they’re facing?
>> What are the things that they’re saying that they are struggling with?
>> And what are they saying are the things that they need?
>> And then what are the things that you anticipate that they will need based upon all of the stuff that is transpiring right now?
Pour into others. Pour into the people that you help with your business. And realize the time that we’re all in is impacting everybody. It’s impacting everybody. So you’ve got to make sure that instead of looking at it or looking the other way and pretending it’s not happening because you don’t want it to be happening, so you just pretend it’s not. It’s not realistic and it’s not helpful to the people who are really struggling right now and who need the tools that you can provide to help them get above that struggle and see the areas that they can control. And give them some ownership of the things that are within their control, and point that out to them and help them see that.
So what is it that you can give to your audience?
What is it that your audience needs?
It’s time to step up as the leader that you are in this global pandemic.
Take a moment and think about those things, think about what you can do. Whether it be turning your service into an online program or whether it be taking a portion of a program that you have and offering it for less money to help those who are in the economic crisis.
Or what is it that you can do for your specific audience? That’s going to be very dependent on who you help, but you can come alongside them and you can help them thrive in the area that you help people with.
So take a moment, think about that, make sure that you are giving yourself grace in this process.
Make sure that you are allowing yourself to be poured into.
And make sure that you’re rising up as the leader for your people because they are counting on you and they want you to address what’s going on and have your take on how they should handle things in the area that you help people with, all right?
Okay, my friend, well, I hope that that has served you. If you’re interested in learning how to build your own website, I have actually just dramatically decreased the prices to my course, the Website in a Week Workshop, so you can definitely check that out.
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I hope that this message has served you, my friend.
For your success,
Did you know that there is a right way and a wrong way to take action in your business?
The right action brings success and keeps your income and impact growing year after year.
The wrong action keeps you stuck at one level, or going out of business completely.
The kind of action you take matters.
So which action are you taking, my friend?
To know whether you are taking the right action or the wrong action, you must first know what belief you are embodying when you do the action in the first place.
There are 4 different ways people approach their dreams.
I see this all the time with the clients I coach and the people I lead in my community.
Let’s see which one of the four you typically find yourself in.
Whichever you find yourself in is what is creating the results you experience right now.
So, I challenge you to be honest with yourself in defining which is true for you. Because the good news is that if you don’t like where you are right now – you can change it!
It’s a simple, yet profound little shift that creates huge results in your life and your business.
First, on the list…
The Pie-in-the-Sky Dreamer
We’ve all heard this phrase… “it’s just a pie-in-the-sky dream”.
Maybe even somebody said that about your business when you shared your vision for it.
But the truth is – you are only a pie-in-the-sky dreamer when you say “I’m totally going to do that, or have that” – but you aren’t taking action towards it.
If you aren’t taking action towards what you desire, you aren’t going to achieve it.
The dream is just the first step, it’s the seed.
The action you take waters the seed until it sprouts and grows and flourishes.
But if the seed is never watered and cared for, it will not grow.
A goal without action isn’t going to happen. It will always stay trapped as a dream. It will never be birthed into your reality if you aren’t willing to take the right action towards it.
But let’s say you do take action! Now it’s just a matter of – which action are you taking? Action that will move you forward or keep you stuck?
Let’s find out! On to the next…
The Derailed Dreamer
This is the person who wants something and who decides to take action towards achieving it, but deep down doesn’t believe it will actually happen for them.
This person may be aware they have this belief, or they may not even realize it.
Nonetheless, it’s in the back of their mind.
And because it is, this dreamer is giving this belief the power to control the actions they take.
So the actions they take reflect this belief over and over again.
>> They think: “They won’t purchase”
So they say: “Hey, I’ve got this thing… it’s a pretty good program, at least I think it is and you might too. You could buy my program, you know – if you want. If you think it may work for you. But you don’t have to if you don’t think so.”
>> They think: “I could never make $10,000 a month”
So they: price everything they offer really low and get $10 here, $100 there, or the occasional $1,000 every once in a while… but nothing that can actually support them for months on end.
>> They think: “Other people say things so much better. It’s all been done before. Why would anyone follow me?”
So they: don’t email their list of contacts, they don’t start that podcast, they don’t write their blog, they don’t talk about their business and what they offer.
They take weak actions in their business.
Actions that are “busywork”, and don’t contribute to real growth towards the business and life they want.
They are hiding…
and when they don’t hide because they decide to go out on a limb and try something “just in case” they are wrong… they get discouraged quickly when they don’t get the result they wanted.
“See, I’m no good at this. It’s not going to happen for me. Why even bother?”
They don’t “put it all out there” because why would they when it will just fail.. and in their minds will just continue to fail?
So of course they don’t yield results, because they aren’t all in.
And the cycle continues until either they quit completely or until they DECIDE to embody a new belief. The good news is that all it takes to change this is first realizing this is what’s happening so you can do something about it. More on that later.
The contrast to the “Derailed Dreamer” is..
The Convicted Dreamer
This is the person who wants something and believes without a shadow of a doubt, truly, that it is theirs for the taking.
They know in the deepest part of their being that success is possible for them and they have infinite potential.
All they have to do is take enough bold action to achieving it and it will be theirs.
So they show up in their full power, owning their value and what they bring to the client, and they both “fail” and they win over and over again.
Because that’s what it takes.
They show up fully confident in everything they do.
They work on their weaknesses in the form of hiring a coach, or team members to help them build.
They grow wealth and they are successful.
Whether they want $10,000 months, $100,000 months or 1 million dollar months – it’s theirs.
Whatever they decide they want, they know is already theirs.
They just have to set the goal, create the path, then take inspired action and it will be theirs.
Whatever they know is the next right step to take, they take it.
Over and over and over again.
They bounce quickly from the failures, knowing it’s NECESSARY in the journey towards their dream.
But what if you don’t know without a shadow of a doubt that you can achieve your goal?
What if you truly just don’t know?
You’d like to think you can, but you just don’t know if your idea can be successful.
That is OKAY! If that’s where you’re at, then you are likely…
The Decided Dreamer
This is the person who truly doesn’t know if it’s possible for themselves, but is open to the possibility.
This person is different from “The Derailed Dreamer” because even though they aren’t 100% sure, they have decided to make the active choice to embody the belief that it IS possible and see where it goes for them.
Embodying the belief is simply taking action “as if” you can achieve it.
They decide to walk in faith that the belief that “anything is achievable” is actually true.
They decide that in order to give this a fair shot, you’ve got to go all in, because later in life they don’t want to be haunted with the question, “what if I had actually went for it?” .
So they choose to test things for a period of time and measure the results of what they test BEFORE giving up completely or stopping the bold actions they are taking.
So their actions look like this:
>> They think: “This program I’ve created is incredible and will really help this person”
So they say: “I have created this program to solve your exact problem. I would love to invite you to enroll. Would you prefer the gold package or the silver package?”
>> They think: “I wonder if I can make $10,000/mo. That would be really helpful to my family and help me grow my business even more. Let’s try it!”
So they price their programs according to the value offered, and they get the sales that bring in $10,000 a month.
>> They think: “Other people say things so well. I would love to grow in this area and share my viewpoint too.”
So they: email their people regularly, they start their YouTube channel, they write a weekly blog post, and they share about their business and what they offer as much as possible so that they can gain skill in communication.
They do the work that DESERVES the results.
When you set goals, and take actions that align with the belief it can be true for you, you will see results, and this grows your faith muscle until you naturally end up becoming “the Convicted Dreamer” because you’ve seen enough evidence in your life that anything is possible for you.
Because the truth is… no matter what you believe is true for yourself.. you’re right.
>> If you believe you can’t do something, you won’t really try, and it won’t happen.
>> If you believe you can do something, you will do what you need to do enough times, and it will happen.
>> If you aren’t sure if you can do something, but choose to embody the belief that it could be possible for you, and take the bold action of someone who knows it’s possible, it will happen.
My friend, no matter where you find yourself right now, you can shift anything that may be holding you back and try on a new, empowering belief that will take you to where you ultimately want to go.
The right coach can help you with spotting any limiting beliefs that are holding you back and get you on a clear path moving forward towards your dreams. And I know from the results of my clients, that the right action paired with the right plan will make you unstoppable!